‘I’m still going': Wife departs on a solo trip after her husband fails to complete one simple task to help with planning

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Jesse Kessenheimer • Writer and Editor
Sep 21, 2023 9:00 PM EDT

Planning a vacation is a lot of work. You have to book flights, find hotels, get good deals, and figure out what sorts of activities you want to do. For some, the thrill of planning is just as good as the vacation itself, but for the majority of us, it's exhausting and we need a little help from our better half. To me, planning a vacation together is the first big step in any romantic relationship because it sets up your vacation expectations for the rest of your life. So what are you supposed to do if you accidentally married a total dud who can't help plan your next dream vacation? Well, go solo of course. 

Usually spouses want to travel together. Like your honeymoon, a vacation is a nice little getaway where you can spend quality time together outside of the real world– no more laundry, no grocery shopping, and absolutely 100% no working… It's the dream! However, in this story, one man was less enthused about his prospective travels. The man's wife was eager to plan their romantic vacation to her dream spot, but when she asked her husband to meet her half way on the planning, he failed miserably. 

Scroll for the full tale of marital fallout where one woman takes a leap of individuality, embarking on a solo vacation when her husband drops the ball. Afterwards, check out another tale of trouble in suburbia where a neighbor gets payback on the neighborhood Kevin by purchasing a pack of 360 sprinklers used for the pettiest purpose.

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    Font - r/AmIthe e. Posted by u/Strong-Farm-7377 15 hours ago AITA for going on vacation without my husband? My husband (32m) and I (29f) planned a week vacation to
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    Font - New Orleans (in the US). We (but mostly I) have been planning this for months. Back in March, I told him I would plan most of it, where to go, and what to do, all he has to do was make sure he
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    Font - had the week off and buy the plane tickets. I spent the last few months researching what to do. I booked the hotel room, made reservations at places we wanted to try, I made a list of all the sites I wanted to see.
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    Font - Every few weeks, I would check in with my husband to see if he had asked off and bought the tickets yet, he would say he was waiting for the plane ticket prices to go down. Three weeks ago, I reminded him again and he
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    Font - said he had got off of work for the days but had forgotten to get the tickets. He looked online and the tickets were close to $1500/ticket. He said he was going to wait some more to see if they would go down.
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    Font - Last week, I asked if he had bought them yet and he said no. We looked again and the prices were still high. He said he wasn't willing to spend that much on them and asked how much money I would lose if I
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    Font - just canceled everything instead. He offered to have a nice staycation instead. I told him I was not willing to cancel everything because I spent so much time planning it. We argued and we didn't come to
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    Font - a conclusion. I wound up buying just one ticket for myself and when i flew out Saturday, I told him I was still going and he acted all surprised that I didn't want to stay home with him.
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    Font - I am in New Orleans now and he is blowing up my phone saying that I am an AH for still going without him. He was trying to get a ticket to come too but I told him if he came, he is getting his own hotel room because this is now my vacation away from him. AITA?
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    Rectangle - Outrageously_Penguin 15 hr. ago Craptain [175] NTA. I don't know your husband's deal is but he acted like a real ole. I don't know if he deliberately sabotaged the trip or just didn't care enough to follow through on his tiny piece
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    Font - of things, but you were absolutely right to not let him ruin the trip for you, and be sure as shouldn't be booking an expensive plane ticket to come join you now. I hope he'll be ready with a massive apology when you get home.
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    Smile - SarcasticBooger. 12 hr. ago Agree with everything you say here. This reeks of intentional sabotage.
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    Font - girl_from_aus 11 hr. ago Partassipant [1] Not necessarily - to me it just as easily shows incompetence or arrogance. He thought he would get a cheap price "later", didn't arrange a contingency plan and is now lashing out because he found up
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    Rectangle - HotDonnaC 10 hr. ago I think he knew that. He didn't want to spend any money. He was hoping it would all go away somehow.
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    Font - BosiPaolo 9 hr. ago It looks also like they have some sort of separate finances, so he was willing to throw OP money at the wind so he could save the plane tickets money.
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    Font - Imho he didn't want to go to begin with and instead of communicating he came up with this insane plan. Good for OP for going no matter what.
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    Font - stinstin555 7 hr. ago Pooperintendant [63] My Mom drilled into me at a young age that when you fail to plan you plan to fail. NTA OP He had ONE job which was to book the travel, he failed to do so. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Enjoy! I love New Orleans.
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    Font - eye_doc-6 hr. ago edited 4 hr. ago Or maybe he thought if he managed not to buy tickets till the last minute, OP would buy it anyway because she was so excited for the trip. So he would get to enjoy the trip and not waste his money over the tickets. Looks like that backfired on him
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    Font - Mountaingoat101.5 hr. ago Either that or he hoped OP would get tired of asking and buy the tickets for both of them herself.
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    Smile - Wynfleue 4 hr. ago Weaponized incompetence with a side of financial manipulation. What a charmer.
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    Font - zerj 10 hr. ago Recall reading somewhere that there can be a sweet spot. To far in the future and the airline isn't worried about trying to fill seats. However doesn't ever seem practical to try to time that. Airlines have teams dedicated to dynamically changing prices to maximize profits. Good luck trying to outsmart that.
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    Human body - ImpossibleAd2748 . 9 hr. ago 6 weeks out on a Tuesday. According to my mother. Its has worked out pretty well.
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